Though oral sex is equally pleasurable to both men and women, very few women actually try to explore this avenue of sexual fulfillment for themselves. There are several inhibitions that play in their minds, and that is the reason why they remain clammed up to this world of pleasure.
If women do not like oral sex on them genuinely, then they have every right not to participate in it. However, there are some things about oral sex that all women must know. There are women who do not like oral sex in general, but wouldn’t mind doing it with someone they really love. Hence, there is a guide on oral sex that all women of the world can use.
Getting Started with Oral Sex
All men love their penises. Whether men are tall or short, fat or thin, fair or colored, they are in love with their own penises. They are generally proud of the size of their penis and of its shape, and are even fascinated by the way it gets an erection and becomes hard when it is aroused. Each man puts his own penis above other men’s and takes every opportunity to peek at other men’s penises in the toilets to see whether his is the biggest or not. Even when masturbating, men will hold their penis like a dear object and jack off.
This is very important for women to know. Women must know that men love their penises. And if women love their penises also, men will develop much better feelings for them. Men love it when women talk about their penises and fondle it, and this could be actually the start of a very loving and long-lasting relationship. That is why, women must make efforts during sex to give all the love and respect to their men’s penises, and oral sex is the best means to do so.
Positions in Oral Sex
There are a few things to bear in mind before you start giving fellatio to your partner – fellatio is the term for giving oral sex to men. The first thing to do is to assign yourself in a comfortable position. There are many positions you can arrange yourself in, but you must bear in mind that your mouth should be able to approach the man’s penis from the best angle. You can have you man lie on his back with his legs hoisted up in the air; or you can simply seat your man on a chair or sofa, while you kneel and take his penis in your mouth.
The sixty-nine position is very ideal if both of you want to perform oral sex on each other. However, though this position looks good in porn movies, it is not that practicable, because it is difficult to give and receive sexual pleasure at the same time.
Exploring the Male Genitals
When you are giving oral sex to your man, you must certainly pull all the stops in the act. Do not restrict yourself to just a few points on the penis and the testicles, but gauge his reaction in various areas. One of the best ways to do this is to keep the penis squeezed as you touch various parts of his genitals with your tongue. Check out the hardness of the penis with each touch. If your man really loves a particular touch, his penis will immediately stiffen and you will feel it. Major erotic regions on a man’s penis are the glans, i.e. the head, and the frenulum.
Techniques for Orgasm
Expert women can make their men reach orgasm with just their mouths. The best way is to start with a slow teasing kind of touch and then gradually increase the sucking action. Keep your teeth out of the way, or the penis will be hurt. Only the lips and the tongue (and the roof of the mouth) are to be used for oral sex. Also, you must explore other private parts of your man. Kiss his thighs and suck his testicles. A very important erogenous zone for men is located just below the testicular sac, and before the anus begins. Pushing this spot like a button will make any man come.
Also, you must not prolong your oral contact too much. If your man is fully aroused, then simple teasing games will actually agonize him. When you are sure he is totally aroused, go ahead and suck at his penis with loud slurping noises.
Men love the noises women make when they are worshipping their penises. It panders to their sense of machismo. The correct sucking motion for women is to wrap their whole mouth over the erect penis, and then suck it hard as they move upwards towards the glans. They must linger at the glans, sucking the whole head with their tongue. Then, they must again take the penis in their mouth in the same way and repeat the act.
And, one more important thing is to use your hands simultaneously. Keep caressing and fondling the other sensitive areas of his body. He will love it if you insert your fingers in his anus and tease him there.
Safety in Oral Sex
Oral sex is much safer than penetrative sex, but still condoms can be used for added protection. You can make putting the condom on, an act full of erotica on its own.
Vary Your Technique
Once you have become experienced in giving your man the enjoyment of fellatio, you can begin experimenting on his body with sex toys. A very good idea is to insert a butt plug in his anus as you give him oral sex. You can actually vary your technique with different sex toys and make the oral sex adventure more and more interesting for him each time.
Monday, January 14, 2008
WOMEN’S ORAL SEX GUIDE
Friday, January 11, 2008
EXPLORE ALL THE VARIETIES OF ANAL TOYS
To express it in a very moderate term, most people consider anal sex to be… disgusting! But the thing is, vast majority of people who shy away from anal sex have never tried it in the first place. Their dislike for anal sex stems from several peripheral reasons, without any personal point of view in it at all.
It's not wise to coerce someone into anal sex, so I am not going to try it either. However, I shall be talking about it so that you get to know what going anal is all about.
First and foremost, we must realize that there are many people out there who simply love anal sex, even better than vaginal penetration. Behind closed doors, a very large number of couples are trying this out; even much more than you could imagine. There will be nothing on the person's face to tell whether he or she practices and loves anal sex or not, but it is entirely possible that there are many anal sex lovers among people you meet on an everyday basis.
The market of anal sex toys is booming. This is a clear indication that there are several people out there doing it. And these anal sex toys are not new at all. There were some anal toys even in the ancient times, but modern toys have developed on them and included many safety measures to make the act much more pleasurable.
Here we are going to discuss some anal toys that have become very popular today. Read this article and see if you cannot spice up your sex life with a spot of anal adventure.
Butt Plugs
Novices to anal sex mostly make their beginnings with butt plugs. These plugs are meant to be inserted into the anus, and kept there for as long as wanted. As such, they seem to be very similar to dildos, but there is a difference. Butt plugs are made narrower than dildos. This is because the width of the anal aperture is much lesser than the vaginal opening.
To add to the safety of the butt plug, its base is made broader than the rest of it, so that it does not enter the body fully and becomes irretrievable.
Today, there is immense variety of butt plugs available in the market, with different colors, textures and sizes. There is a butt plug for everyone who wishes to make a foray into anal sex techniques
There are many ways to use the butt plug also. Both men and women can use it. Men prefer it much more, because their anuses are more erogenous than women's. Men have the prostate close to their anus, and the spot from which the prostate can be stimulated is sometimes called as the male G-spot. The butt plug can be inserted during foreplay and then kept on for the entire act of intercourse, or it can also be used when masturbating. Hence, the butt plug finds its use in both solo as well as partner sex. Some people enjoy the sensation of the butt plug so much that they keep it on even when they are doing their normal activities.
But the butt plug's main use is for the initiation of the person into anal sex. The butt plug is the first device that a person must use if he or she wants to enter the world of anal sex. The butt plug will loosen the anal area, and make it ready for all kinds of penetrations and anal sex methods.
Anal Stimulators or Anal Vibrators
Anal stimulators are a modification of the butt plugs. When they are inserted into the anus, they vibrate, increasing the sexual arousal that the user gets. The vibration of the anal stimulators are made in such a way that they provide the tingling pleasure at all the sensitive nerve endings that are present in the anal area.
Again, there are endless varieties in anal stimulators. There are different materials, sizes and colors used. Hence, everyone can choose an anal vibrator that suits their own body and temperament.
Beginners to anal sex would do better to start with narrow anal stimulators so that they do not find the inserting act too painful. And even when pros are using the anal stimulator, there is no point in giving it fast vibration right from the start. Always commence the sexual act with low speed of vibration and then work its way upwards.
Anal Beads or Anal Balls
Anal beads and balls are devices that contain a string of beads or balls, which are meant to be inserted into the anus. Beads are smaller than balls, and hence easier to penetrate. The pleasure begins when the insertion is done, but the pleasure increases tenfold when the beads or balls are pulled out from the anus, one by one, and with differing speeds. In most cases, the pulling out of the beads and the orgasm of the person will coincide.
The number of beads or balls is kept at five. They have differing sizes too, to give differing pleasure to the person using it. Though the Chinese had invented the anal beads several centuries back, the fact remains that today's beads are much more safer than hygienic for users.
There is a healthy variety in anal toys and if you are planning to embark on your own anal experience, then you must know of the different options. And always keep the lube handy if anything seems to go wrong.
ENJOYABLE VARIETIES IN ANAL SEX
The term anal sex is actually a quite diverse term. Anal sex does not just mean anal intercourse, which is the name given to actual penetrative sex – but it can mean a host of arousing things that can be done with the anus. Some of these acts that involve the anus are fingering, anilingus (which is also known as rimming), fisting and even using anal sex toys for stimulation.
If you are intrigued by anal sex, but have never tried it out, you can check out the list of anal sex methods below. They will help you get the pleasure you want from your anal experience, if you ever decide to have one.
Fingering
The anal opening is rich with nerve endings. This reason can be easily stimulated with fingers. Couples use the fingering technique as foreplay for the sexual act, or they might use it as a main part of anal intercourse. Anal fingering may be done in conjunction with other erotic acts, such as oral sex.
It is a fact that anal stimulation by fingers is much more pleasurable to men than to women. This is because men have the prostate gland close to the anal tract, which the women do not have. The prostate is a very erogenous zone for men and stimulation in that area is akin to the stimulation of the G-spot in women.
The right way to finger a man's anus is to apply pressure on the lower portion of the anal crack, which is closer to the testicles. This will enable stimulation of the prostate gland. In woman, this region is not quite erogenous, but the use of sex toys can bring on added pleasure.
While fingering the anus, it is necessary to use some kind of anal lube for lubrication. Added precautions must be taken to prevent infections, such as the use of cloves. Nails should be kept trimmed to avoid injuries.
Anilingus (Anal Rimming)
Anal rimming means the stimulation of the area aperture with the tongue. Being a very erogenous zone, anal rimming provides immense pleasure to both man and woman. Again, the pleasure is higher in men because of the presence of the prostate in the vicinity of the anal opening.
Infections might occur with anal rimming, though, especially if proper hygiene is not maintained. One way to reduce the chances of infection is to put a napkin on the anus and then perform the anilingus. This will surely provide some kind of protection to the transmission of infections.
Fisting
When the anus is penetrated with the hand, it is known as anal fisting. Anal fisting must actually seem to be an unachievable feat, but with the help of patience and earnestness between the partners – and of course a profuse amount of lubricant – it can be achieved. Only a great deal of practice can make this possible. For amateurs, fisting could be very painful, and could also cause some tears in the anal area. Hence, the partner being fisted must immediately caution the other partner to stop when things are beginning to go wrong.
There are risks associated with fisting too, since the anus is an area of removal of food wastes. Gloves are important during fisting.
Anal Toys
Several toys have been developed to give special pleasure to the anal tract. The following is a list of some of the popular sex toys :
Anal Beads – These are a collection of several beads of different sizes and textures, which are meant to be inserted into the rectal tract through the anal opening. The different sizes and textures of the beads provide different kinds of pleasures to the person. Even the removal of the beads is an erotic act in itself. The beads are removed in different styles and at different speeds. In most cases, the removal of the anal beads brings the man or woman on whom the beads were used to an orgasm.
Anal Balls – Anal balls are exactly the same as beads, only that their sizes are bigger. They are designed for people who want to allow more pressure to pass through the anus.
Anal vibrators – Anal vibrators are mechanical devices that can vibrate. They are meant to be inserted into the anus, where the vibration provides an extremely sexually gratifying experience. Anal vibrators are not as broad as dildos that women use to stimulate their vaginas. The small thickness allows the anal vibrators to fit smugly in the anus and provide extreme pleasure.
To make the whole act more pleasurable, the anal vibrators come in several textures and colors. They are meant to give different visual and functional sense to the user.
Butt Plugs and Anal Probes
Both of these are devices meant to be inserted into the anus. They provide a smug fullness sensation in the anus. Once inserted, they can be kept on during the entire sexual act. Again, butt plugs and anal probes are of different sizes and shapes, so that they can cater to people of all sizes and desires. In function, butt plugs are very similar to anal vibrators, but with one major difference. Butt plugs do not vibrate.
EARTH SHATTERING ORGASMS FOR WOMEN – DO THEY REALLY NEED THEM?
There are many mysteries around the female orgasm, and indeed it is not as easy for women to achieve their orgasms as it is for men. At times, it leads to serious conviction in the belief that the female orgasm is certainly a myth, and has been perpetrated only to create a kind of gender equality between man and woman. After all if a man has an orgasm, why shouldn’t a woman? That could really be a viable theory, considering the fact that women do not actually 'need' an orgasm. In men, orgasm serves the biological purpose of the ejaculation of sperm, but in woman, there is no fathomable biological purpose at all. Women can give birth to children even without ever experiencing an orgasm. However, since sex is not just about giving birth, it is necessary to tackle the issue of female orgasm delicately and make a good study on it.
Even sex experts shy away from giving a direct answer on the topic of female orgasms. Either their answers are about how the female orgasm is more of psychological thing than a bodily thing, or their answers would be misleading litanies about women being complicated beings with several mental upheavals like mood swings, depressions and internal conflicts that do not let them peak during the sexual act.
That is the reason why women are bigger buyers of all kinds of sexual devices such as dildos and vibrators. Their need for achieving orgasms is quite high, and the frustration may build it up to higher levels. Having said that, it is necessary to point out that a majority of women would prefer good old-fashioned sex with a partner they love, even though they do not get their orgasm in the act. Mechanical devices of giving pleasure can easily get a backseat where women's innermost desires are concerned. That is enough grist to build up the theory that women want love; they do not mind not having an orgasm at all.
The basic purpose of sex should be to strengthen relationships, and it doesn’t matter – even for the woman involved – if she gets no orgasm through the act. Women cannot will their orgasms like men can. If they begin doing that, the possibility of the orgasm goes much further from them. In conclusion, it is not necessary to make a competition out of the sexual act and see who gets the better orgasm. In most cases, women would remain quite happy without peaking at all, if they have the assurance that their partner really loves having sex with them.
A LOWDOWN ON MASSAGE PRODUCTS
Massage is a definitely stimulating activity, which can be very easily turned into a very interesting sexual act. It has health benefits like improving the circulation within your body and making your body warmer. But these are the exact things that make you better aroused for sex. Any kind of massage – a simple backrub or a full body massage including the genitals – can be immensely arousing. Just as a reminder, it is necessary to use a lube for full-body massages.
This is what this article is written for – to tell you about the various kinds of lubrications and other products available for massages. Keep these things handy when massaging. They might be in requirement at any moment.
Massage Oils
Massage oils are not just oils used for your massages; they are important ingredients to add the spice to your sexual encounter. You can convert a boring backrub into the hottest sexual encounter with oily skin rubbing against oily skin. The very feel of a soft, slick oily body is enough to send someone in the highest throes of titillation. There are many fragrances and densities of massage oils available to provide preferential pleasure. Also, most massage oils are non-toxic. Hence, there is no harm if some amount is accidentally ingested also. That means, there could be a nice time with some licking pleasure also.
People who are not very familiar with massage oils should try the small specimen bottles first before going in for a big purchase. The bigger massage bottles weighing 32 ounces are too expensive to be bought without thinking.
The general way to use massage oil is to take a little of it on the palm of the hand, then to rub the hands together to moisten them completely with the oil and then move on to the application on the body of the person. This is in fact the best way to apply the oil. Oil poured directly from the bottle onto the person's body will not feel at all arousing. It is also necessary to have a shower after oil massages.
A full body massage is always preferable with massage oils. Try different maneuvers to apply the oil on the back, arms, neck, chest, legs and buttocks of the person. If you want to use the oil for genitals also, then you must check the label on the bottle if it is safe for that purpose. If the person you are massaging has a sensitive skin, it is better to test out a small portion of his or her skin with the massage oil first. One more thing to remember is that massage oils are not meant to be lubricating oils for penetration purposes.
Massage Lotions
One reason why some people do not like massage oils is that they are slippery and that they might leave residues behind on the skin which do not go away with a single shower. Also, they might cause allergies like breakouts on the skin. That is the reason why people with oily skins prefer using massage lotions. Massage lotions are like moisturizers, so they are very good on people who have dry skins. They can provide better skin contact with the partner.
There are different kinds of massage lotions available. If it is a simple backrub you want to give to your partner, then a hand lotion is enough. But otherwise, special lotions made for massage purposes must be used. Lotions titillate women better because of their aromas and even tastes. However, it is advisable to avoid the athletic toned lotions if you are planning to have sex during the massage. These lotions have mentholated aromas, which can be a turn-off during sex.
There is no difference between the ways massage lotions and massage oils are used. The only thing is massage lotions will come out in thick drops. Rub about a tablespoonful between your hands and then slowly work it on your partner's body. Lotions will get absorbed fast in the person's body – especially if he or she has a dry skin – so you will need to reapply the lotion several times. Also, if you feel the lotion is drying up in the middle of the act, you could just sprinkle some water on the body to make it come alive again.
Do not use massage lotions when you are using latex objects such as condoms and some sex toys. Check the bottle for allowances to work on latex products. It is extremely harmful to use massage lotions on the penis and insert it into the vagina or the anus of the partner. This can cause serious harm to the woman's genitals. Also avoid introducing the lotions in the mouth by licking the partner's body when smeared with the lotion.
Warming Oils
If you want a hot genital massage, then warming oils are the best to use. Warming oils are edible oils and edible oils are generally safe to use on the genitals. Warming oils work the best on small areas of the skin, and hence they are the best for sexual stimulation. You can try them on breasts, buttocks, thighs and the underarms and just watch the effect.
Application of the warming oils is done in the same way as massage oils and lotions. They should be rubbed on the palms and then worked on the body in slow strokes. Slowly, the warming oils should be worked into the skin, and a new supply must be taken from the body. As the name suggests, these oils will heat up the area on the skin on which it is applied. This will heighten the sexual stimulation.
Again, most warming oils cannot be used with latex products, unless the label suggests otherwise. Warming oils should not be used for penetration, even though they can be safely – and effectively – used on the genitals. Also, check out the warming oil on the skin of the person before applying. Some people might be hypersensitive to such products.
Now that you know about the various massage products available, it is for you to think and see what suits you best. Whenever you are meaning to have a hot sexual night, it is advisable to keep some massage products handy and see if you will need them. Massage products last for several years without changing at all. The only indication that something has gone bad with the oil will be an offensive odor and presence of residue at the bottom in the bottle.
7 TOP TIPS TO MAKE YOUR GIRL GO CRAZY
Here are seven very valuable tips for men who want to make their girls go crazy in bed.
Tip # 1
Take time in foreplay. This is a cliché, but it has always been important. Take time out to understand the girl's body completely. Touch every part of her body. You never know which part could turn out to an erogenous zone. Some girls go crazy when their men bite their earlobes, while some may actually get an orgasm with only a single lick of the man's tongue on their hardened nipples. The clitoris is a definite erogenous zone, but very few men know that a woman's heel is also quite sensitive. Try kissing her heel the next time and see the effect.
Some women get aroused when men use sex toys either on her or on themselves. Butt plugs can be used to great effect on either partner.
Make good friends with the woman's vagina. Spend time exploring it. Lift its various folds, finger every part of it and see your woman moan with pleasure. Try different hand motions on the vagina and see the effect.
Tip # 2
Be unpredictable, women love that. Always surprise your woman. Do new things with her. Try changing the place where you have sex everyday; women love that. If you feel like, drop your pants in front of her in the kitchen and have wild sex with her seating her on the kitchen sink. Or make it in the elevator or on the balcony with the windows slightly open – so that people cannot actually see, but you can feel you are being looked at.
There is a story of how a man dangled his woman with a leather cord from his balcony on the eighth floor, and then he dangled himself and had sex with her at that altitude. Thrilling, but very ill advised. However, there is no need to be that drastic. If you only try to make sex with your woman in new circumstances each day with a bit of adventure thrown in – like keeping your video camera on, for instance – then your woman's orgasm would be beyond any description.
Tip # 3
Men do not know how a simple non-sexual activity like palm reading could actually turn into the hottest sexual episode they ever had. Pretend reading your woman's palm. If you have the gift of the gab, mingled with a little humor, you will have her where you want her to be. A woman's palm is a little-known erotic zone. So you can pet and caress it. If she likes the touch – which she certainly will – you will sense the response. If you get your green signal, take her palm gently to your crotch. She will, in most probability, grab your throbbing penis and the fun will begin.
But it is necessary to be good in the palm reading job. You must try kissing the palm, and even nibbling at it. Tell romantic sweet nothings to the woman while telling her fortune. Women love to hear that, even though they know perfectly well you don’t mean anything!
Tip # 4
There is a particular sex exercise that can bring great novelty and excitement to the sex. Remove your woman's clothes. Then remove your own clothes. Masturbate in front of her and make your penis hard. Then sit on the floor and guide your woman to sit right on your hard penis. This is actually a celebrated sex position, which is even mentioned in the Kamasutra. And it works every time in giving new pleasure to couples who are bored by their routine sexual methods.
Tip # 5
Many women have a fetish of being manhandled by their man during sex. If your woman shows any indication of liking rough play, then you must give her her desire. One idea is to mock rape her with her hands pinned behind her back. Or you can spank her buttocks if she is game; women enjoy that, and not to mention, their men too! If your girl is into BDSM, then she wouldn’t mind rougher games. You can get some leather outfits for both of you and some BDSM sex toys that you can use on her and also yourself. Flogging toys, collars, penis sheaths are just some of them.
However, you will need to be dead sure that she is into this sort of kinky stuff. If she is not into it and you go ahead, then there is a very great likelihood that she will want to dump you forever.
Tip # 6
Cooking up a meal for a romantic night works for women also. Taking the example of Casanova himself, who used to cook dishes for his girlfriends, you could learn a valuable lesson. Cook something your girl is mad for. When she will see you have taken the effort, she will go crazy just like that. She might begin undressing herself and you right on the dinner table itself.
There is some scientific rationale in this. Some herbs and foods are known to increase libido in women. You can use apricots, raisins, nuts and even try some Spanish fly on your woman.
Tip # 7
Nights are meant for sex, which is understood. But did you ever know the magic of having under the sheets sex in the morning? In the morning when you wake up, do have a session with your girl. She will naturally have a good time at work, and so will you. But what is more important is that the girl will remember the morning session better than the night session. So, there is a great chance she will want more and more of it, and your sexual life could be simply bliss.
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Stimulating the Prostate
The prostate is considered the male g-spot. The prostate is located behind the pubic bone and just below the bladder. The prostate is responsible for much of the fluid that is produced in a male’s ejaculate and is a very sensitive organ and if it is healthy, many men will experience great pleasure from stimulation of the prostate. | |
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Heterosexual Anal Sex
During the 1990s, there seemed to be an explosion of anal sex in porn. In fact, most people expected to see at least one scene of anal sex in films during this time period. Although anal sex is still somewhat taboo, these videos may have led to an increasing trend in anal sex in the last few years. Some even went so far as to call anal sex the “new black.” It seemed that more and more individuals were exploring their sexualities with different areas of their bodies.
Due to the taboo status of anal sex it is difficult to find any relevant information or statistics on whether or not people are having anal sex more often. Researchers have done an excellent job at not even touching the subject and if they have, they’re not talking!
The fact of the matter is that we are more than likely becoming for at ease with the sex discussion and sex talk is more popular than it once was. The little research that is available shows that in the 80s younger people were more likely to admit to having anal sex while older people that had anal sex were not as prevalent. Research that was conducted later in the 90’s and in 2002 showed the opposite effect. Younger people having anal sex were not as prevalent as older people.
When you consider sex related research, it is difficult to determine the accuracy of the findings. During surveys, even if they are anonymous, many people will not answer truthfully due to embarrassment. Research, however, can be useful in providing generalizations on the sexual activity of individuals.
More recent studies that were held in the 90s suggest showed that 27% of college men and 24% of college women had engaged in anal sex at least once. While in the 70s and 80s, studies showed increased rates than those studies held in the 90s. In the 70s, 25% of women stated that they had anal sex while in the 80s, 72% of women reported having had anal sex. The most recent study held in 2002 by the National Survey of Family growth reported that 30% of women and 34% of men had engaged in anal sex at least once.
So, perhaps we are just accepting anal sex as a healthy form of sexual exploration versus the taboo subject that it was once considered. Anal sex is no longer considered to be only for gay men, but for everyone who is sexually active. Market trends are also showing this, as more and more adult sex toys are being marketed and directed for anal sex, which shows that the society is accepting it as well.
Anal Sex for Beginners
Sexual exploration is healthy and natural, so it is no wonder that more and more men and women are exploring their sexuality through anal sex and adult sex toys in the privacy of the bedrooms. Anal sex is not always at the top of everybody’s “must do” list, but many are choosing to explore this area.
This area, like our brains, is often ignored as a means of sexual pleasure. The anus responds to pressure, touch and movement just like the vagina or penis. Although many consider anal sex taboo, others are finding enormous pleasure and are using anal sex to “spice things up a bit,” especially when sex toys are used to increase stimulation.
Many people stray from anal sex out of fear. The only way to overcome this fear is to explore the unknown. That being said, it is important to remember that this decision should be one made out of personal choice and not through pressure.
The first step in combating this fear is to begin to learn about the anus. The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings and responds to pressure and feelings of fullness. Both sexual organs of the man and woman can be stimulated from the anus. Men can have their prostate gland stimulated by placing pressure a couple of inches inside the anus. Woman can also have the internal tip of the clitoris stimulated as well. There are many adult sex toys that are being sold specifically for anal sex and they can be used in the exploration process.
The key to anal sex is relaxation and time. There should be no pain but you will want to pay attention to what feels good and what does not. Breathe and relax if all feels well, but do not force it if it does not feel good or right.
An open mind is also essential. There are many varieties of anal play from touching and penetrating with the fingers to oral contact or playing with sex toys. Do only what you are comfortable with, but don’t forget about the exploration factor as well.
Following the basic rules of anal sex is important. Use a lot of lubrication to prevent the tearing of tissue. The anus and rectum does not produce its own natural lubrication, so you must be prepared with a good quality and thick lubricant. Any sex toys should be free of sharp edges or seams. Fingernails should also be cut short or rounded.
Anything toys that have been used in the anus should not be placed in the vagina. The anus and the vagina have two different types of bacteria and can cause problems for women if they are mixed. Use a fresh condom on the penis or toys. Sex toys should also be washed thoroughly after use and before they are placed in the vagina.
Anal sex can be a fun and pleasurable experience if you take the time move slowly and do some exploration first. It is also to remember that what may feel good to you may not necessarily feel good to your partner so open communication is very important during your anal sex play.
The G Spot
The G spot consistently finds itself in the spotlight during most sexual encounters. Many may actually wonder where this spot is at and some people may have difficulty locating. Often considered the “magic button” for most women, the G spot is the one area of your body that will provide intense sexual pleasure if hit correctly.
You may be lucky and find your G spot immediately. The first time you have an orgasm you may have found it or you may be looking for that intense sexual pleasure and it just hasn’t presented itself yet. Either way you should not get caught up in finding this special area and you should not pressure yourself. Sex is not meant to be stressful, so when you find – you find it.
One way to begin your search for your G spot is to turn yourself on. Do a little self-exploration and homework of your own. The area around the G spot is spongy and will become engorged with blood when you’re turned on. This helps you located the area. You may have to experiment with positions in order to find the right spot. Try lying on your back, on your stomach or even squatting. Begin by placing your palm face down on the vulva and insert your finger into your vagina.
When you are inside and up to about the second knuckle you will feel a little bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of the vagina. Move your fingers as if you are asking someone to come to you. Press down and pull forward on the spot with your fingers.
If you find yourself in an odd situation trying to stimulate the G spot by hand, consider using an adult sex toy designed for G Spot stimulation. A good G spot vibrator or dildo may help you out. Apply lube to the toy and insert the tip of the toy pointing up toward the wall of the vagina. You may need to insert it a couple of inches to find it.
Some women will enjoy pressure on the spot or the vibration of a toy. Experiment with either to find what feels the best for you. Pressure works well for most women so you will want to use your sex toy in short strokes while applying firm pressure. Change your movements up a bit to keep the area stimulated, as you don’t want to numb it with the vibrator.
When you feel an urge to pee, then the G spot is being aroused and you may wish to add to the feeling with clitoral stimulation. Maintain the stroking on the G spot while you do this. Relax and let yourself go at this point. Some women may actually feel this feeling of needing to pee but if you stick with the stroking it will pass and you will have an orgasm.
A G spot orgasm can take some practice to get everything just right. If you don’t orgasm the first time just keep trying. Try varying your position, use a different toy or experiment with Kegel exercises. The G spot is most responsive when your aroused so try stimulating it after you have already had an orgasm. Don’t get hung up on trying to have a G sport orgasm. If you have been trying and it just isn’t working pleasure yourself in a manner that you know will work and try again later. Whatever you do, don’t get discouraged.
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Roles reversal
For some women, the thought of strapping on a dildo has probably passed through their thoughts on occasion and many have been brave enough to suggest it. For some men, the thought has crossed their mind but there may still be some reservations. As anal sex looses it’s taboo status in society, more and more couples are making their way down to the local sex shop to check out the selection of harnesses and dildos available.
Many men are slowly warming up the idea of penetration. If they have experienced any type of anal sex play in the past, then they are more likely to be willing to let their women have some fun by being the penetrator instead of the penetrated. If you are a man thinking about being penetrated or a woman thinking about penetrating, then here are a few concepts to consider before you begin to play.
Open the Lines of Communication
Communication is key in anal sex. There is a lot of trust that is required in this type of sex and in order for it to be pleasurable for both parties involved you need to know what feels good and what doesn’t. If you are interested in starting anal sex play with your partner begin by suggesting the topic and discuss before you make your move. Reversing the roles through anal sex can bring up different emotions and have unexpected reactions, so you need to have discussed the topic prior to playing.
Self-Exploration
Whether you are a man or a woman, if you have never experienced anal sex then you may need to do some self-exploration. Grab a tube of lube and start exploring while you masturbate. This will give you an idea of what you like and what you don’t like and will help you to communicate better during the real thing.
Start Slow
Girls, don’t run down to the sex shop to buy the strap-on and other anal sex toys until you know what you are getting into. Experience anal sex with your partner without the toys first. Allow them to get to know you better with their fingers and some good lube before you break out the adult sex toys. For some individuals, it may take some time before you are ready to play with toys.
Start Shopping Online
Shopping can be almost as fun as the real thing. Check out our selection of toy, we will ship your sex toys to you discreetly and privately. If you have any questions about toys, email us. Contact is anonymous and we will do our best to answer any questions you may have.
Playtime
Girls, get comfortable with your new strap-on by practicing putting it on and controlling the dildo. You may have to do some practice runs before you get really good at it. Women are not use to using their hips and legs in this fashion so it may take some getting used to at first.
Safe Anal Sex
As with any type of anal sex, don’t forget the lubrication and the rules of anal sex. Start slowly and make sure you clean your sex toys properly when you are done. Keep the lines of communication open and the experience is guaranteed to be pleasurable for you both.
Role reversal often arouses sexual feelings and emotions that you didn’t know existed. This is an opportunity to turn the tables and try out new positions and do some deeper exploration. This is not mainstream sex and it will typically lead to hotter sex than you ever imagined.
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What's the best way to clean sex toys?
Proper cleaning of sex toys is essential to avoid bacterial infection or transmission of STIs. While some STIs die once the fluid they live in dries, others (such as hepatitis and scabies) can live for weeks or months outside of the body. If you want to prevent pregnancy, it is also important to be remove sperm that may be on the sex toy before using near or in the vagina. It’s important to keep the instructions for cleaning the sex toy and to follow them carefully. If you feel that cleaning the toy properly would be too time consuming or unrealistic for you, think about buying a different toy. The information provided below gives a general overview for cleaning different types of toys and isn’t meant to replace the manufacturer’s instructions.
For basic toy care, remove any batteries. Never submerge electrical components in water. Use a damp, soapy washcloth to clean your electric toys, preferably with anti-bacterial soap. Keep toys stored in a container or pouch (to keep them clean) and in a cool, dry place.
Cleaning non-porous materials: glass, stainless steel, hard plastic, and silicone.
Glass
Wash glass toys with soap and water. Pyrex toys are dishwasher safe. Do not expose glass to extreme temperatures.
Stainless Steel
If attached to an electrical device, use warm soapy water, being careful not to submerge any electrical components. If there are no electrical components you have 3 options: Boil or soak in a bleach-water solution (50:50 ratio) for 10 minutes, or place it in the dishwasher.
Hard Plastic
Clean with anti-bacterial soap and water. Do not boil.
Silicone
3 options: boil for 5-10 minutes, put it in your dishwasher (on top rack), or wash with anti-bacterial soap and warm water.
Do not boil silicone vibrators because you will destroy the vibrator mechanism.
Cleaning porous materials: rubber, vinyl, cyberskin, nylon, and leather.
Rubber materials
Rubber materials are porous and difficult to clean. In addition, their composition is not always known or may contain phthalates, chemicals which have been shown to be harmful to your health. For these reasons, it is recommended to use condoms with these types of toys.
Cyberskin and Vinyl Cyberskin is soft and porous, often used for dildos. Wash cyberskin and vinyl toys delicately with warm water only. Air dry and powder a small amount with cornstarch to keep them from getting sticky.
Nylon
Nylon harnesses and toys can be machine or hand washed with a mild anti-bacterial soap.
Leather
Wipe leather products with a damp, soapy cloth or with leather cleaner. Do not soak leather. After cleaning, you may recondition your toy using a leather conditioner. Protect metal parts from tarnish by applying a coating of clear nail polish.
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Are Sex Toys Safe?
In recent years there has been a lot of concern over how safe adult sex toys really are. Some sex toys have been claimed to cause cancer, but how much truth is there to these claims?
Adult sex toys are not required to have a great sex life, but they sure make it fun. So, you must assess your personal situation in this area. Sex toys are sold as novelty items and are not regulated or tested by any government agencies such as the FDA. They are not intended to be medical devices so the government does not deem this necessary. Before purchasing adult toys you must also know whether or not you are allergic to latex or certain types of rubber. Sex toys come in a variety of materials from jelly rubber to silicone and even glass. If you are allergic to these types of materials, then there is a likelihood that you will have some sort of reaction.
We know that many soft rubbers and jelly rubbers are made with a substance called phthalates. This substance has been linked to some individual health issues in a variety of products. Manufactures may also scent the adult toys to hid the smell of the phthalates and some people may be allergic to the scent or dye used in the product.
Phthalates are a chemical compound that is used to soften hard plastics and make them feel like jelly. This product is derived from Phthalic acid and is often called a plasticizer. This product was developed in the 1920s and has been used in a variety of products including perfumes.
Whether or not you should worry about this substance is not an easy question to answer. There have been very few studies performed that can tell us specifically whether or not this product is harmful to us. Some organizations have suggested that phthalates may pose a risk to health and reproduction; however, the National Toxicology program at the Center for the Evaluation of Risks to Human Reproduction issued a report in October of 2005 stating that there was “minimal” risk regarding the impact of phthalates on reproduction.
If you are looking for phthalate free sex toys , ask your store to alert you to which toys are phthalate free. Most toys that smell like rubber have phthalates in them. Sex toys that do not have phthalates include:
- Silicone rubber
- Hard plastic or acrylic sex toys
- Glass
- Metal
- Elastomers
It is not recommended to use phthalate containing sex toys if you are pregnant or breastfeeding. To make them safer, you can use a condom on them assuming that you are not allergic to latex.
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Sex Toy Materials
Silicone
Toys that are made from silicone are soft, chemically inert and are hypoallergenic. The material does not contain phthalates, but you should be careful as some sex toys are advertised as silicone when they are silicone and rubber mixes. These toys may actually only have a small percentage of silicone in them.
Silicone is ideal for penetration, as they transmit vibrations well and warm to body temperature. They are also non-porous and are easy to clean. Silicone sex toys are perfect for individuals that are concerned about having allergic reactions. It is recommended to use either water-based or oil-based lubricant, but do not use a silicone lubricant.
You can use soap, rubbing alcohol and bleach to clean silicone. Be sure to rinse the toy thoroughly after cleaning. If the toy is not a vibrator you can also wash them in the top shelf of a dishwasher or boil them for about 3 to 5 minutes.
Elastomers
TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomers) and TPR (Thermoplastic Rubbers) are becoming more prevalent as consumers are more concerned about the phthalates that are used to soften rubber. These sex toys are hypoallergenic and phthalate free. They are also good for individuals who are concerned about allergic reactions.
Elastomers are slightly porous, so it is possible for them to harbor bacteria. They should be cleaned with soap and water. Use a water based lubricant with these adult toys. Because these toys are porous, cleanliness is important. They are able to transmit infections if they have not been sterilized. These toys cannot be boiled, so you may wish to use a condom with them to keep them from harboring bacteria.
Jelly Rubber
Jelly rubber is made of PVC (polyvinyl chloride) and is made with softeners called phthalates. This chemical may cause allergic reactions and may be hazardous to your health. It is recommended that these toys be used with condoms.
Jelly rubber is porous and will harbor bacteria. Because of this these toys can transmit infections if not properly cleaned. These toys should be cleaned with mild hand soap and water. Alcohol, bleach and dish soap will cause the rubber to break down. Use water based lubricants with jelly rubber sex toys.
Mixed Materials
There are several sex toy manufactures that are using silicone in their sex toys to make them more durable. Silicone also makes a toy of better quality, however, these toys may also contain phthalates.
To care for these toys you will want to treat them as if they were jelly rubber toys. They may be porous and harbor bacteria so you should consider using a condom when using them. Only use hand soap and water to clean them.
Hard Plastics
Hard plastic toys are non-porous and will not harbor bacteria. They are also phthalate free. These toys are good for individuals concerned about allergic reactions. If the toy is a vibrator it is important that you do not drop them. The material may crack resulting in sharp edges.
These sex toys should be cleaned with soap, rubbing alcohol or bleach. Be certain to rinse these toys thoroughly if using alcohol or bleach. Hard plastic cannot be boiled and it is recommended that you use a condom on the toys to prevent the transmission of infection.
Glass
Glass is used in only a limited number of sex toys, most commonly for dildos, but is becoming increasingly popular because it's easy to clean and stays massively slippery for a long time when used with a good lube.
The smooth texture makes it ideal for sliding in and out of your anus, but do check your glass sex toy for nicks before and after each use.
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Anal Sex Toys: The Basics of Safe Play
Anal sex remains a popular form of sexual exploration. Anal sex may involve anal penetration as well as external stimulation of the anus. This form of sexual behavior is safe and healthy so don’t think you are abnormal if this thought has crossed your mind a few times. Anal sex provides an avenue of sexual exploration that is both physically and psychologically stimulating. Anal sex has had a large impact on many individuals and has added that extra spice that a couple needs.
The best way to explore anal sex play is with anal sex toys . Many can be used alone or with your partner and are designed to stimulate the anus, rectum or prostate. There are some safety concerns to consider when choosing anal toys as well as some key rules that should be followed.
- Use only toys that are designed specifically for anal sex.
- Start small and slow.
- Use lots of lubrication . A thicker lubrication is usually best when used for anal sex. Use more lubrication than you think you need – just to be on the safe side.
- Use toys that use some sort of flare or barrier on the end. This prevents the toy from entering the rectum. The anus has a suction effect and objects are easily drawn into the anus if care is not taken.
- The toys should be smooth and seamless. There should be no sharp edges, points or pieces that may break off. The rectum has sensitive tissues that tear easily. Not all sex toys are designed for anal sex and you should be careful when choosing a toy. Make sure that it is marketed for anal sex play.
In the event that there is an emergency during your anal play, such as a lost toy, you should try to remove the toy yourself. If this is not possible you need to go to the emergency room immediately. If the toy is a vibrator and has batteries it is essential that the toy remains off while in the body. If the toy is turned on, the motor may overheat and can cause internal burns.
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All About Dildos
A dildo is an adult sex toy that people can use for penetration. Some are available with a harness that you can “strap-on” for role reversal play with your partner. Dildos are used by all people regardless of sexual orientation. They are available in a variety of sizes, colors and materials. Not all dildos look like a penis and some are available in shapes such as dolphins and cucumbers.
When purchasing a dildo, the first thing you need to consider is size. Experiment with how deep and wide you like penetration and purchase a dildo accordingly. You will also want to decide what type of material you want. The less expensive dildos are going to be available in rubber while more expensive dildos are available in glass or Lucite. Most beginners start out with a rubber variation.
Dildos can be used by hand or with a harness . Harnesses can be expensive, but they can also add a lot of spice to your sex life and free your hands up for other things. If you are purchasing a harness you will want to find a comfortable one. There are a variety of designs and some will strap around your thighs, fit like a g-string or like a jock strap.
Like most adult toys, dildos are available at the majority of sex stores. If you have a partner, you may consider going shopping together for the new sex toy. If you feel a little embarrassed about going in a store, visit an online store for a wide variety and the privacy of our own home.
What Kind of Vibe is Right for You?
Many women use a vibrator to achieve an orgasm. They are often recommended by therapist for women who have never achieved an orgasm. Vibrators are excellent for external clitoral stimulation as well as penetration. They are just for women, however, as many men use them for prostate stimulation. For most women, a vibrator is the easiest way to achieve an orgasm.
Many people use vibrators to not only have orgasms for the first time but also to spice things up in a long-term sexual relationship. They are great for adding the extra stimulation that you can’t do on your own and they are great for just making sex fun.
Vibrators come in a wide variety of materials. Many people enjoy harder materials for external stimulation and softer vibrators for penetration . They are also varied in their function. Some thump, buzz, rotate and light up.
Vibrators may range in price. There are some very high-end vibrators that don’t even look like what many people think a vibrator should look like. Vibrators may range from $6 for a simple rubber vibrator to a gold-plated orb shaped vibrator for $300. Inexpensive vibrators provide just as much pleasure as expensive vibrators but their motors may burn out more quickly and they may break easily.
The best vibrator is one that gets the job done for you. Every person is different and every person enjoys a different type of stimulation. Some people use vibrators for penetration or external stimulation and there are vibrators that are good for both. Many people choose vibrators based on the amount of noise they make as well as what they look like. There are many new vibrators on the market that don’t look like what you may think a typical vibrator may look like. Soft rubber vibrators tend to be quieter than hard plastic vibrators and the coil style plug in vibrators are virtually silent.
As a rule of thumb, many consumers have found that Chinese motored vibrators are actually of poorer quality. The best motors tend to be Japanese, as they last longer and are stronger. Electric vibrators tend to be of better quality and also last longer than battery-operated vibrators.
There are a variety of vibrators on the market and some have special functions. These include:
- G Spot Vibrators
- Waterproof Vibrators
- Anal Vibrators
- Wearable Vibrators
- Remote Controlled Vibrators
- Dual Action Vibrators
- Finger Vibrators
- Pocket Vibrators
There are a wide variety of vibrators that are on the market. Some are designed for external stimulation, others are designed for penetration and some are designed for both. When you are trying to decide which is right for you consider what you think will provide you with the best stimulation and go from there.
Depending on where you are currently at in your sexuality you may find that a simple vibrator is all you need and will dramatically change your sex life. Then you may discover the beauty of a G spot orgasm and you may want to add a G spot vibrator to your repertoire of adult sex toys. If you are using the vibrator with a partner then consider what you think you can both have fun with.
The easiest way to decide which vibrator is right for you is to decide if you are looking for more external clitoral stimulation or if you want one that is multi-functional. Some people like vibrators for penetration only and that’s okay too. It is all up to you and what you are interested in. There are even vibrators that you can wear under clothing for that extra edge of stimulation wherever you are whenever you want.
Perhaps you want to keep your vibe a little secret. There are a variety of vibrators available on the market that do not even look vibrators ! These sex toys look like abstract pieces of art. If a person had never seen these sex toys before they would not even know what it is! There are even vibrators that look like little rubber duckies and are perfect for keeping in the shower.
Privacy may also be key in purchasing a vibrator. What is the point in being elusive with the vibrator’s style if you can hear it all the way down the hall ? When shopping be certain to read reviews, as many people will mention the noise level of many products. Soft rubber vibrators are usually the quietest while the electric vibrators that plug in are virtually silent.
Don’t be ashamed if you are thinking of purchasing your first vibe. In an Elle and MSNBC.com survey 75% of the respondents said that they have used a vibrator. This is an excellent statistic to show the prevalence of the vibrator. New designs are coming out every year, so don’t expect your first purchase to be your last purchase. As technology increases vibes are sure to become quieter and more unique.
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Oral Sex Advices
An integral part of foreplay for a lot of people is performing oral sex on a partner; it is the most intimate step in becoming comfortable with your lover’s body, and your own. Foreplay can devolve into several playful techniques of erotic exploration, but oral sex both functionally and emotionally enhances the event. It allows us to feel closer to our partners, because we have surrendered a small amount of self-control by exposing a vulnerable body area. At the same time, the egocentric experience that we undergo when receiving oral gratification can be an enlightening one for those of us who are more reserved.
As always, safety is a concern; you can protect yourself and your partner by using an unlubricated condom or latex dental dam. A simple trick to make great dental dam is to chop of the end of a condom, then cut down one side of the latex cylinder. This rectangle is then placed over the anal area or woman’s genitals. It may seem like more effort then its worth, but there is a lot to say for the peace of mind knowing that you aren’t going to wake up with an unfortunate surprise. This is generally a good idea all the time, but should be performed at least until both partners have been tested for STDs.
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