Men and Sex : Five Shocking Stats

I just red a very interesting article about men and sex in Psychology Today. This is what Jay Dixit is saying :

Sex researchers are peculiar beasts. Armed with their tape measures, clipboards, surveys, and hidden cameras, they seek to provide a peephole from which to scrutinize that most private of spheres, human sexuality. What's most surprising is that we let them in—we're more than happy to unzip our pants and bare our private lives. Why do we do it? Maybe it's precisely because sex is so private that we're compelled to share. We know that without sex researchers to disseminate data about our sex lives, we'd be forced to rely upon furtive glances in the men's room, never sure of what to add or subtract to account for the angle; upon locker room stories, never sure how many grains of skeptical salt to apply; upon porn that only leaves us feeling depressed about ourselves. So cheer up, because most of what you think you know is probably wrong. Today, sex researchers step out from behind the curtain and share the real numbers on five areas of men's sexual health. The answers may surprise you.

Sex on the Brain

The idea that men think about sex every seven seconds, like the claim that we only use 10 percent of our brains, is often repeated but rarely sourced. The number doesn't bear up against scrutiny. According to the Kinsey Report (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male), 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43 percent a few times a week or a few times a month, and 4 percent less than once a month. Even though the Kinsey Report relies on men to self-report on how often they think about sex, it's still eye opening to find that just under half of men aren't even thinking about sex once a day. Clearly, the seven-second rule may be a tad hyperbolic.

Not Tonight, Honey

The stereotype about the sex-starved man and the disinterested woman may be more than just a cliche. As it turns out, the instant a woman enters a secure relationship, her sex drive begins to plummet. Four years in, a German study found, fewer than half of women wanted regular sex. And after 20 years, only 20 percent did.

Among men, libido held steady no matter how long they'd been in the relationship. Researchers provide an evolutionary explanation—women's sex drive is initially high to facilitate pair bonding. Meanwhile, desire for tenderness showed the opposite trend. Ninety percent of women craved tenderness, but of men who'd been in relationships for ten years, only 25 percent said they hoped for the same from their partner.

Measuring Up

For as long as there's been such thing as a ruler, men have been putting wood to, um, wood and wondering how they measure up. "There's nothing wrong with you. You look at yourself from above and you look foreshortened," Hemingway reassured a panicking F. Scott Fizgerald. "It is basically not a question of the size in repose. It is the size that it becomes. It is also a question of angle."

The trouble is that most of the actual surveys of penis size are unscientific and unreliable. The Kinsey survey relied on men to report their own numbers honestly and accurately—never a good idea. (Curiously, that survey found that gay men reported having longer penises than straight men—a finding never since replicated.)

Since then, there have been numerous attempts to settle on a number: from various Web surveys to the condom company that did a survey in Cancun during spring break ("Excuse me, could you step into my office, I need to check something"). But the most rigorous studies to date found similar results—the Journal of Urology put the average penis size at 5.08 inches, and the International Journal of Impotence Research put it at 5.35 inches.

The Spread of HIV

In Africa alone, AIDS kills some 6,000 people every day. While treatment must be made available for all who need it, some elements of the AIDS epidemic are likely exaggerated. Remember when Surgeon General C. Everett Koop called AIDS "the biggest threat to health this nation has ever faced." (Presumably bigger than cancer, heart disease, obesity, and smoking.) And when Oprah told her viewers: "Research studies now project that one in five heterosexuals could be dead from AIDS..." It seemed as if no one was safe, not even non-drug users, straight men, or housewives.

But the truth is that HIV isn't nearly as easy to spread through heterosexual sex as many people think. According to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association, men almost never get HIV from women. A healthy man who has unprotected sex with a non drug-using woman has a one in 5 million chance of getting HIV. If he wears a condom, the odds drop to one in 50 million. And though it's easier for men to infect women, the odds that an HIV-positive man will transmit the virus to a woman through sex are less than one in 1,000.

In Three Minutes Flat

Judging from the average porn flick, romance novel, or locker room conversation, a Martian landing on Earth would probably assume that intercourse would last somewhere in the vicinity of 40 minutes. But if that Martian were to actually enter into a relationship, he might be in for a big disappointment. Such marathon sessions are the exception to the rule; surveys find that the average sex session lasts from three to ten minutes. Not that any of this should be so surprising—the average hotel porn viewer watches for just 12 minutes.

I love Rabbit Vibrators (and you will too!)

Why do women love the rabbit vibrator ? Perhaps the best way to explain it is to give you an example and as long as I'm giving an example, I will use my favorite rabbit. Just take a look at this sex toy ! This is the Pink Lady Rabbit Vibe, and yes, it will send you to paradise! There are two controls (on most rabbits), one for the shaft and one for the rabbit head. The best way to experience the rabbit is as follows:

First, be sure to become acquainted with the vibe and get to know what to expect by turning on the two controls and seeing what each does. You can adjust the strength of vibration and movement by turning the control up or down.

Now we are ready to begin. Insert the shaft slowly into the vagina until the rabbit's head rests gently against your clitoris. Turn on the vibration for the shaft and adjust it to a comfortable level. If you have a pearl rabbit (such as the one shown), not only will the shaft vibrate and rotate, but the pearls will rotate just inside the opening of the vagina. This offers an incredibly exciting sensation.

When you are ready for more stimulation, turn on the vibration for the rabbit head. The rabbits ears will tickle and excite the clitoris. Now that you have the full effect, you can adjust the vibration and movement with the controls as the mood suits you.

The rabbit is fun solo or with your partner. As you can see, the rabbit offers it all, from G-spot to clitoris. Particularly one of the pearl vibrators and one of my other favorites is the Bird of Paradise.

At LustVibes, we have many rabbit vibes to choose from and suit your taste. Whether you are buying one for yourself or for as a gift for someone, be sure to visit out Rabbit Vibe Collection on our web site.

A look at cock rings.

Cock rings have been used throughout history. It's no wonder since they are known to give super hard erections, keep you harder longer, give you a more intense feeling and a much stronger orgasm. Who wouldn't want that?
A cock ring won't get your hard but it will make you stay harder much longer. It does this by restricting the blood flow and keeping it in the penis longer and not allowing it to flow out. This is what keeps your cock hard for an extended period of time. You can use a cock ring by yourself or if your with a partner. It really doesn't matter! I know a lot of men who use cock rings for different reasons. Some like them because it keeps them harder for a longer time and helps if their partner doesn't orgasm as quickly. Others like them because it gives them a really intense orgasm. And, some like to wear a cock ring just because it feels good.

It's important to wear the right size cock ring too. Some are not adjustable so be careful when selecting this kind because if it's too tight it could cut off circulation to your penis entirely, which is definitely not good. If your cock ring is too loose, then it is doing you no good either.


Fortunately, there are cock rings that are stretchy and adjustable like the Megastretch Cockrings we sell at LustVibes. These are perfect because they stretch up to six times the original size. Plus, they can be pulled over the penis and behind the testicles for the classic squeeze that many men enjoy.

Our Colored Megastretch Cockrings are perfect if this the first time you're trying it out too. For just $3.50 you can try the shape of your choice and it's not too pricey in case you decide it's not for you.

Remember though, using sex toys should be a stimulating and fun experience. So if you have any vascular disorder, diabetes, or take any type of blood thinning medication, it's important to consult your doctor before trying out a cock ring for the first time.

Terrified of sex toys or daunted by dildos ?

So what is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator? Many people confuse the two, and I know that when I first started using sexual toys I also had no idea that there was even a difference. Basically, a vibrator is a battery powered toy that vibrates, whether it is meant for insertion or external stimulation. A dildo is designed for either vaginal or anal insertion and it does not vibrate. Dildos are used to create a sensation of internal pressure that many find stimulating. However, there are always exceptions to the rules, aren’t there? Some dildos do vibrate; you’ll find these referred to as “vibrating dildo” or “twice as nice.”

Although I have used both dildos and vibrators, I prefer the clitoral stimulation I receive from using a vibrator. If it’s penetration you crave, I would suggest opting for a realistic dildo, like the The Governor. For the best of both worlds, you can choose a vibrating dildo like the Hot Pink Dildo Vibe, but make sure the vibrations are enough to get you off and that the toy is the size you want for penetration. Many women find that using the combination of a dildo and vibrator brings them the most supreme satisfaction.

There are tons of variations of the two and it may seem overwhelming to determine the best one for you. Out of the thousands of sex toys on the market today, even the most seasoned sex toy purchaser may find it all confusing.

The first thing you’ll want to do is figure out how you best reach orgasm. I know that I best reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. In fact, clitoral stimulation is how the majority of women reach sexual release. But, there are those that reach orgasm through penetration. Also, do you like your stimulation to be on the softer side or do you prefer a very strong vibration? There really is no right or wrong way to go about reaching orgasm and it’s all about what works best for your own personal enjoyment.

Once you decide between a vibrator or a dildo or even both, you’ll have to wade through the many choices that are out there! Do you prefer variable speed; hands free; twice as nice; remote control; waterproof; bullets ? And, what about all those different materials – Silicone, Glass, Jelly, Acrylic and Elastomer ? As you can see there’s a lot to choose from. Again, it really comes down to your personal preferences.

Do you like something a little more pliable and giving with penetration ? If so, silicone and jelly is nice for this. The silicone will hold heat and can be sterilized. If you like a silky smooth slippery feeling, then glass or acrylic would be the best choice. Both the glass and acrylic are non-porous allowing them to stay smooth and slick for long periods of time. One thing to remember about glass and acrylic is that since there is no give to the surface of these toys they will feel larger than a toy of the same size made of silicone or jelly. The best way to find out what works best for you is to experiment with different kinds until you find the right one that helps you reach your highest climax.

My personal favorites are listed below and each has its strong points.

Pink Lady Rabbit Vibe - Simply the best and strongest pearl vibrator made today and its massager design makes it very stimulating.

Corky Bear Vibe – The thrill of twirling penetration combined with the ecstasy of clitoral stimulation for a very competitive price !




Finger Fun Vibe – Perfect for partner play and making those hard-to-reach spots happy.

Have sex toys, will travel.

Now that the holidays are drawing closer, many of us begin planning our trips, vacations and time away from our desks. I know that the fall season is a busy one for me when it comes to traveling, whether I’m visiting family or traveling for work. And, of course, I take my favorite toys with me!

Traveling through airport security with sex toys is always an enjoyable adventure in my experience. In general, the male TSA agents tend to be really friendly, even recognizing some of the toys. I have found the TSA women to be all business, and really resistant to learning a thing or two about the cool personal electronics showing on the x-ray screen.

If you are nervous about being outed with your favorite vibe or lube, I suggest toys that travel more incognitio. The

Babe Flashlight Vibe, Vibrating “Chef Frenchie” and Vibrating “Sheriff Carter” are all variations on sex toy designs and very discreet. Not only are they fun to play with but they are fully functional vibes, sure to bring pleasure just when you need it the most!

I especially like theLustlight for its versatility as a keychain, vibrator and flashlight – and it’s waterproof. What more could a girl want?

The best travel tip I’ve heard: take the batteries out before packing so your toys don’t go off and pose a security threat. And don’t wear your Locking Breather Wildcat Gag through the metal detector.

Lustlight - Versatility at it finest

Vibrating "Sherrif Carter"

Vibrating "Chef Frenchie"

Sensual art now online.

I love erotic imagery, whether it’s high-quality nude photography or figurative and erotic art. Recently a new online art gallery, ObsessionArt.com, launched that is sure to be a pioneer in the world of retailing. The London-based company is the world’s first online retailer specializing in erotic imagery, providing a vast array of selections from internationally acclaimed artists and photographers.

The tastefully done ObsessionArt.com explores concepts that are hard to find in the traditional art world. A fine mix of the sensual with the surreal ensures something for everyone’s taste. Classic realist painters such as the UK’s Lee Jones can be found along with more controversial artists like Saturno Butto and the award-winning US photographer, Lochai.
For those who seek erotic literature, ObsessionArt offers a fine selection of books to whet your appetite. And for those a bit more daring, how about having your own delightfully sensual images printed on canvas?

I personally love visiting the site to see the new work that’s on display and each month they feature a specific artist which introduces me to even more beautiful imagery. If you haven’t already checked out the site, I encourage you to do so.

Arthur Braginsky - After Dreams

After you’ve perused all the lovely visuals, be sure to visit us for your very own personal delight.

Fun in the water!

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